The Hardest of Hearts……….

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I chose this picture once again cause it is of young eight year old Martin Richard, a young boy who was tragically taken from us, by two Individuals with the hardest of hearts. This  young boy was an innocent Victim of a senseless tragedy and this sign he holds here, is a symbol of what might of come from this young boy.

We all grow from a young age and as a child we are all precious in our own ways. When we are little we have no hate of anything and everything us around is an equal, we play with other children within our communities and welcome everybody no matter what their background, skin color, or where they are from. Our children are true gifts from God to us and we all can learn from these children, as much as we teach them to grow within Society.

With all this hate and ugliness around us today ( which the Media like to make bigger than it really is) and the fact that we as a child have none of this, shows that we as people learn and create this hate and ugliness from somewhere as our hearts become hardened and cold. Children are a sponge and soak up everything around them as they grow into Society, as innocent as a child is, they become a product of what is around them and when they are raised with hate of everything around them, they then get filled with it and the hardened heart syndrome then begins, with the coldness yet to come.

Children are a product of the love between a loving Man and a Woman, that are showing their love of one another to all that is around them. Children are not something that helps you get more free money from the Government, so you don’t have to go out and earn a living. When you raise a precious child for all the wrong reasons, this is where all the hatred is then learned from the child and starts the hardening and coldness of the heart. All this hatred, racism and ugliness is learned from somewhere, it is not in any way a part of us, as God did not create Mankind to be this way.

“When God created Mankind he did so out of love and filled our hearts with the warmth of this love, everything else is learned as we grow within Society. Our hearts only become hardened and cold, when we don’t acknowledge the love of God within our hearts”.

We as children learn everything that is around us at a young age, if that is a world of hate, then this is what we learn and take with us as we grow into Society. When we suffer through some Life events as a child and we think we have no where to turn, then these events teaches us to be hateful of everything around, as we try to keep ourselves safe from further events that may cross our paths. Quite simply we as children become a product of what is around us and when that is a world of hate, then it snow balls as these children are grown up into Society with the Hardest of Hearts, as there heart is full of coldness, instead of the warmth of God’s love. We all walk a path through this journey of life, we all learn from a young age how to walk these paths, so we can try to walk these journey’s as safely as we think safe is, what we need to do more of is, trust in God and Jesus more, as their love for us never leaves us, trust, have faith and forgive ourselves, so we then can do the same of each other, so our hearts will be filled with the warmth of true love and not hardened with the coldest of hearts, which does nothing but spread more hatred and ugliness around us further.

” A cold and hardened heart is learned from a young age, the warmth of God’s love is always within our hearts, all we need to do is accept and acknowledge it”

” A Child is precious and pure full of love of everything around them, the hate and ugliness is learned from what is around them as they grow into Society”

” When a heart becomes hardened and cold, it is because of what is around it, as we grow from a young age it forces us to become someone for which we truly are not”

” God’s love never fails us, it is us that fails ourselves”

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Can words really hurt you???

Within this Society today of high technology, social media, and the fact that we are taught to “man up” cause words can’t hurt you only because there is no physicality, sorry but who ever says words don’t hurt, needs to re think the way they think.

The words people use have the same effect on another person as if they literally beat the snot out of another person, the choice of words someone may use, is very much in the same class as physical abuse, some may disagree cause there is no being physical or laying a hand on another, but what you do to their way of thinking of themselves and others around them, hurts them far worse than beating the crap out of them and even worse, these words don’t leave a mark on the exterior, but the marks they make internally, can and will last a lifetime

While we grow from a young boy/girl, we are like a sponge soaking up everything around us, during this stage in life there will be others that try to influence us any way they can, because we as a young child don’t know any better and are in the learning stages of life, we get sucked in to whatever they are trying to influence us to, there will also be others that use being physical as their way of control much like a school bully, then because we are like the sponge soaking things in, we tend to take the abuse instead of standing up against it, then as that little boy/girl through the fear of the situation, learn to bury the pain inside and not communicate externally, in order to truly make the pain go away, now you have a troubled Society we all are a part of.

There are many ways that abuse will come into our lives, even as an adult in our jobs from someone superior to ourselves, abuse can be mental as well as physical, whether you lay your hands on someone, or you simply use the wrong words at the wrong time, words can and will be more powerful than being punched in the face by another. Social Media today proves just how true this theory is, now that we have a new Bully in town and it is called, “Cyber Bully”.

The scars from a verbal assault can and will last a lifetime, the scars from a punch in the face may hurt for a short time, but will heal over time, when we have internal scars the pain is great and we try anything to rid ourselves from it. We become someone we truly are not, in order to try to keep the internal scars from hurting us further, we suppress deep within ourselves our true feelings and emotions, we numb ourselves to everything around, so as nothing else will bring this pain to us again, but the words keep coming, we keep suppressing, til one day an explosion of ourselves that has built up over time, then the unthinkable happens and no more pain anymore, except we are no longer around to truly feel our real feelings and emotions, or the ones close to us will forever miss us, when we are no longer there.

This is what a Bully does to their Victims, it doesn’t matter how the Bully does it, whether at school, the work place, or cyber through social media, even someone who abuses another in any way shape or form is also considered a Bully, as they all use fear to control their Victims, the power of control is the end game for any Bully and when the Victim gives them that by, suppressing their true selves deep inside themselves, the Bully will continue what they are doing. The way you fight a Bully is, stand up to them, show them no fear and more importantly, stay true to who you are always, never lose touch of your true feelings and emotions, when  you are true to yourself, there are no words that can be said, to hurt you deeply inside, words whether coming from someones mouth or typed into the cyber world, are just that…words, they originate from someone, somewhere and when we stand up to that someone, there is no where they can hurt us anymore.

” When words are said in a beautiful way they can inspire us all, when they are said in a negative or harming way they can hurt us in many ways”

” A Bully uses fear to control their Victims, a Bully can come to us in many ways, whether physical, use of words, or typing into the world of cyber”

” When we stay true to who we are and keep in touch with our true feelings and emotions, there is no end to us accomplishing great things, its when we suppress ourselves deep within, that we become someone we truly are not”