Can words really hurt you???

Within this Society today of high technology, social media, and the fact that we are taught to “man up” cause words can’t hurt you only because there is no physicality, sorry but who ever says words don’t hurt, needs to re think the way they think.

The words people use have the same effect on another person as if they literally beat the snot out of another person, the choice of words someone may use, is very much in the same class as physical abuse, some may disagree cause there is no being physical or laying a hand on another, but what you do to their way of thinking of themselves and others around them, hurts them far worse than beating the crap out of them and even worse, these words don’t leave a mark on the exterior, but the marks they make internally, can and will last a lifetime

While we grow from a young boy/girl, we are like a sponge soaking up everything around us, during this stage in life there will be others that try to influence us any way they can, because we as a young child don’t know any better and are in the learning stages of life, we get sucked in to whatever they are trying to influence us to, there will also be others that use being physical as their way of control much like a school bully, then because we are like the sponge soaking things in, we tend to take the abuse instead of standing up against it, then as that little boy/girl through the fear of the situation, learn to bury the pain inside and not communicate externally, in order to truly make the pain go away, now you have a troubled Society we all are a part of.

There are many ways that abuse will come into our lives, even as an adult in our jobs from someone superior to ourselves, abuse can be mental as well as physical, whether you lay your hands on someone, or you simply use the wrong words at the wrong time, words can and will be more powerful than being punched in the face by another. Social Media today proves just how true this theory is, now that we have a new Bully in town and it is called, “Cyber Bully”.

The scars from a verbal assault can and will last a lifetime, the scars from a punch in the face may hurt for a short time, but will heal over time, when we have internal scars the pain is great and we try anything to rid ourselves from it. We become someone we truly are not, in order to try to keep the internal scars from hurting us further, we suppress deep within ourselves our true feelings and emotions, we numb ourselves to everything around, so as nothing else will bring this pain to us again, but the words keep coming, we keep suppressing, til one day an explosion of ourselves that has built up over time, then the unthinkable happens and no more pain anymore, except we are no longer around to truly feel our real feelings and emotions, or the ones close to us will forever miss us, when we are no longer there.

This is what a Bully does to their Victims, it doesn’t matter how the Bully does it, whether at school, the work place, or cyber through social media, even someone who abuses another in any way shape or form is also considered a Bully, as they all use fear to control their Victims, the power of control is the end game for any Bully and when the Victim gives them that by, suppressing their true selves deep inside themselves, the Bully will continue what they are doing. The way you fight a Bully is, stand up to them, show them no fear and more importantly, stay true to who you are always, never lose touch of your true feelings and emotions, when  you are true to yourself, there are no words that can be said, to hurt you deeply inside, words whether coming from someones mouth or typed into the cyber world, are just that…words, they originate from someone, somewhere and when we stand up to that someone, there is no where they can hurt us anymore.

” When words are said in a beautiful way they can inspire us all, when they are said in a negative or harming way they can hurt us in many ways”

” A Bully uses fear to control their Victims, a Bully can come to us in many ways, whether physical, use of words, or typing into the world of cyber”

” When we stay true to who we are and keep in touch with our true feelings and emotions, there is no end to us accomplishing great things, its when we suppress ourselves deep within, that we become someone we truly are not”

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When you love yourself, you like who you are and all that is around you………

Our lives along our paths of our Journey of life, will never be perfect nor will we as Humans as well, we all suffer some kind of life event and we all have been bullied at some point in our lives also, being bullied doesn’t only mean to be physically attacked,, as the worst kind of bullying happens mentally, with the scars lasting the rest of our journey of our lives.

Bullying is more common than we want to believe, only because the ones that have been the victim, hide deep within themselves in order to minimize the pain and harm that has come to them, as the victim hides their true feelings and emotions, they become isolated from everything around them, they lose their feeling of self worth and their self esteem seems like it was never there, they don’t want to admit to anybody of their weakness, so they than live a fantasy world and become something that they truly are not, being a victim is the saddest thing we as Humans will ever have to entail, but the scary thing is, there are a lot more victims than Bullies out there, just that the victim stays within themselves with no signs of reaching out to anybody for help.

Reaching out to anybody for help is easier said than done, cause in this Society where weakness is ridiculed and frowned upon, plus the victim of the abuse or Bullying are suffering from low self esteem and self worth, their trust in everything around them has been taken from them, when your trust is taken from you, it is very hard to get it back, yes it can come back, but you need trust in yourself to truly love yourself, so you then can be truly happy with who you are, the Human body and the Human spirit are so complex, only we don’t take the time to understand them and we take action, before we think of the ramifications of our actions.

The Bully always takes action without thinking of the ramifications of his/her actions, they have no feelings of remorse or empathy, or otherwise they wouldn’t try to control whatever they are trying to control, all they think about is the power they try to achieve, by Bullying their victim, the Bully thinks that the more victims they have, the more powerful they are? A Bully can only operate when the victim shows fear for the Bully, fear is another powerful feeling within us all, but the Bully uses this fear to his/her advantage, fear can only be used effectively when you have no feeling of remorse or empathy, a good percentage of the Bullies out there, have been bullied themselves, this is their way of trying to make sense of their own victimization.

For the Victim, being bullied is never easy, for the Bully it is about inflicting fear to achieve power, either way it shows nothing but, we as a Society need to better understand the Human body and the Human spirit, so we all can walk our paths along our Journey of life in peace while we all love ourselves deeply, so we can truly love one another and all this hate in our Society will disappear once and for all, true love of ourselves and of each other, is what God wanted for us when he created us and to show him we appreciate his creation, we all need to work together to achieve this true love, so we all can walk our Journey’s of life in peace.

” A Bully is nothing more than someone who is hurting deeply inside and even more than the Victim that he/she has victimized”

” Being a victim of a Bully is never easy, so we need to stand up to the Bully, so the fear factor will never come into play”

” To truly love yourself, means you totally love who you are and all that is around you”

The “Abuse” is more than what we think abuse is……..

With all the Domestic Abuse we see through the Media on a daily basis, it is a far bigger problem that happens to many of all walks of life.

The only reason we hear of this Domestic Abuse from the Media, is the fact it is happening from some high profile sports athletes, when in reality it happens to many Humans everyday of their lives, most of the time it doesn’t start out as physical, it starts as mental abuse with words and degrading someones mind into thinking they are worthless and less than others around them, when our self esteem is broken, is when the physical side of the abuse starts and the victim of the abuse see’s no way out of it.

Domestic Abuse is not just a problem within the sports world, it is a problem within our Society as some feed on the control of another Human, so these Individuals can think they have the power of control, the biggest reason a person who is a victim of the abuse doesn’t communicate to anybody, is the fact that they are afraid to admit to their weakness and the fact that their self esteem is so low, that they have no confidence in themselves to make their lives better.

The person who is doing the abusing, in most cases shows no true empathy or remorse, to their victims, which leads to the abuse spinning further out of control and a lot of times becoming very violent towards the victim, the Abuser only sees it as they themselves having all the control and the Abused sees themselves as maybe it is suppose to be like this, then becomes trapped in a world full of pain.

No matter how you look at Domestic Abuse, it is a big problem throughout Society and not just within the sports community and the players who play the sport, we as a Society need to take this more seriously, show more empathy and remorse of each other, so we can end all the abuse whether it’s domestic or any kind of abuse, abuse of any kind whether verbal through words, or physical in nature should not be tolerated in any way shape or form, the ones that do the abuse shouldn’t be locked up to protect the rest of us, as this will only make them abuse more, what they need is good serious treatment, so they can get to the bottom of why they do it and just maybe through this and the rest of us showing more empathy and remorse of each other, we all can walk our paths along our journey’s of life in peace, as we become stronger and better to face the real hurdles that may cross our paths.

” Abuse happens everyday to anybody, not just in the high profile world of sports and the players of the sport”

” Abuse is a weakness that to some, they think it brings them power over everything around them”

” Abuse is not just physical in nature, it is also from the words we say to each other everyday”