Let’s clear the deadwood and end Bullying now,

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There is so much more to walking the path we chose through this journey of life. We all at some point within our lives have been Bullied or have Bullied another, the thing we never talk about especially those who have been Bullied is, the fact that when you are being Bullied, you are shamed into thinking maybe something is wrong with me? Shame is a very powerful feeling deep within us all, when we are shamed we tend to forget who we truly are, for which we then put forth a fake self, just to try to fit in and be accepted. When we are shamed by another and bullied to the point we try to avoid others, we then become as lonely as this tree with all the deadwood around it.

There is so much true beauty around us as well as the beauty within each of us, that when we are Bullied and are shamed from the Bullying, we never get a chance to truly see any of the beauty around us or within. We walk our paths of this journey for we ourselves, it’s not about making others happy, it is more about being truly happy deep within ourselves, so we than can be happy on the outside, as we take this happiness to all that is around us. What a Bully never see’s when he is in the process of controlling what’s around him is, he never see’s any beauty either as to him there is nothing but power and control, plus the fact that a Bully has lost the feelings deep within himself like, the feelings of empathy or compassion, because if he felt either of these, he would never be a Bully anymore, to terrorize anyone of us.

The effects from a Bully can and will last a lifetime, they will leave scars and these scars can’t be seen, as they are deep within us, whether we want to admit to them or not. The scars from being shamed by a Bully are not just a scar that, with a band aid they heal and disappear from sight, these scars are emotional and come with great pain and hurt. The pain and hurt coming from shame, will have us become someone we truly are not, we ourselves won’t even recognize ourselves as we hide deep within ourselves and put forth this fake self, to try to protect ourselves from further pain and hurt, we will rationalize away anything coming from the shame as well as , going deep into denial, which then has us not even accepting our actions moving forward.

Bullying is nothing more than having the power and control over someone/something, it is also nothing more than using fear to have that power and control, a Bully is also a Coward as they can not even accept their own issues and then, they take it out on someone around them. A Bully can be anybody and you could be standing next to one now? The true way too stop a Bully is look them in the eye , show no fear as they try to make you fear, show them that they can not hurt or control you, as they then will cower away, like the true Coward for whom they are. There are Bully’s everywhere whether Domestic or abroad, we all have to face one sooner or later, now through Social media there are even the worse kind of Bully, known as the Cyber Bully, to which we never face, because they are a true coward that hides behind their device, these individuals can’t face any issues, let alone their own issues and hiding behind a device proves that, the problem is, they will do and say anything to have us become a slave to their words, so they than can ( in their own minds) seem as powerful to anything along this journey, but in realty they are the weakest link to this Society and need to be treated as such, so they will disappear from all our paths of this journey through life.

 

” A Bully is nothing more than a Coward that try’s to inflict fear on all that is around them”

” With a Bully it is all about power and control, when we don’t give them that, then they disappear like the tumble weeds in the wind of the desert”

” Shame is a very powerful feeling deep within us all and when we become shamed we then lose sight of who we truly are”

” Cyber Bullying is the new way of a Coward to try to control each of us, time we nip it in the bud and end their reign of terror”

” We all want the power and control, but when we forget of truly who we are, then our actions become inaction’s throughout our paths of this journey”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Words of Wisdom through all the real pain and hurt

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My little Buddy needs to make another appearance with his words of wisdom, so we can get away from all the ugliness, hatred, real pain and hurt. The time is now to show the empathy that is within us all, share it with each other, so we all can walk our paths of this journey in the peace and happiness we all so deserve. Martin Richards had a heart of Gold, an innocent young eight year old boy, that was tragically taken from this Society, by two sick Individuals who were in need of some major psychological help. During the Boston Marathon bombings……… #bostonstrong  one of the bombs were placed right at the feet of where he was standing, he had no chance to avoid what was about to happen.

 

” We all have felt some real pain and hurt at sometime, but we have never let ourselves truly heal fully from the pain and hurt”

 

Since this #meto has been on twitter then with the way and the speed it has gone viral, clearly shows there are more than we ever imagined, that feel this real pain and hurt deep within. We have all been a Victim of something along our paths, whether from sex abuse, a Bully, or maybe been robbed and your personal belongings taken from where we live? Whatever the case may be, we have all suffered being a Victim of something, but instead of understanding our situation and fixing whatever we need to be better and stronger, we have gone totally in the other direction and deeply suppressed our true feelings and emotions to the point of, we not only lost our true empathy, we have lost what it feels like to truly feel the love of God, deep within our hearts and souls, so now we can’t share with each other.

Because of all this pain and hurt, there is also no trust of one another anywhere. It used to so that you knew your neighbor next door, now not only do we not know who our neighbors are, but we do not know of who anybody is anywhere, from where ever we may go. We have gone from walking our paths peacefully, to walking with chaos and crap all around us.

With all these Celebrities being outed for all their deranged actions, shows that the rest of us have no clue, of just how many Victims that has been created? Plus the ones who created the Victims has no clue of, just how much damage their actions have done. Denial may just look like a word, but it is a strong word, that has us rationalize away our actions, so we can make light of any heavy situations. Shame also may be just a word, but it is a very strong word, that will control every fiber of our being, if we really let it. Through the Denial we simply do not take responsibility for our actions and then rationalize them away and deflect them from ourselves, through the shame we then bury very deeply our true feelings and emotions, as to try to keep the real pain and hurt from affecting us anymore, we do this all within our subconscious, so we then can try to move forward in the reality of our Society, to show on the outside that we are as normal as normal can be, so others around us will think we are normal. We all walk a path through this journey of life, nobody is perfect along this journey, but when we respect and trust one another, then this journey will always bring us the peace and happiness we all so deserve.

 

”  Denial is a way to rationalize away any actions so we don’t have to take responsibility for the action”

” Shame is very powerful and forces us to deeply suppress our true feelings and emotions, to try to deflect the pain and hurt”

” Victims need the time and space to truly heal from the wounds, so they can move forward better and stronger”

” Before you take action to the action, first you have to think through the action in order to not bring the pain, hurt and shame, to those around you”

 

 

 

 

 

 The slippery slopes of life

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The beautiful ski mountain in the summer months, full of green grass and green evergreen tree’s. Once winter comes and these slopes disappear and gives way to the white of the snow, now these slopes become slippery, as you swish your way down with the ski’s beneath your feet.

Within this Society and now that the #meto has gone viral throughout, there are a lot of people hurting deep within. Now with most of the ones coming out, all we hear are the ones that are rich and famous, what we don’t hear are the regular types that are still dealing with their pain and hurt, simply because the shame that they feel is so powerful, it makes it very difficult to talk openly from this kind of abuse. Plus the fact that we are within a Society that can’t truly feel the empathy that is deep within us all, that we don’t truly feel anything for who is around us.

Most of this #meto backlash we are experiencing right now is Media driven and the problem with that is, the media cares nothing for the Victim of the abuse, all they care about is making a story, keeping their agendas and putting money in their pockets, as they go forward with the  take down of the rich and famous. This problem of the Sex abuse we are seeing is, it has affected way more than we think we know, just that the Bias Media will only follow up on the ones that suit them and their agendas.

Now really what business does the Media have in getting into such a hot topic today? Really they should stay out of this topic, as the real Victim needs to heal from all the pain and hurt they have been hiding for way too long. The media has this problem of sticking their noses in places where they really should not, because to truly heal from the real pain and hurt, you don’t need Reporters and camera’ s in your face everyday. Just as when the shooting in Vegas took place, the media was their interviewing ones that just lost a loved one and they didn’t even give these people a chance to truly grieve, so they can heal from the pain of losing their loved one so tragically., all just so they can keep their agendas and keep putting money in their pockets. This all comes down to Human ethics and the media has no clue on what this truly is.

To truly heal from such abuse like sex abuse, just don’t happen overnight and through the media, it takes time to truly heal from this, as it comes from a sick Individual that has groomed and gained the trust of their Victims for so long, that the Victim then buries their true feelings deep within themselves, so they can try to keep moving forward like they as normal as normal can be. Then as the media makes a story out of it just to keep their agenda, now you have a Victim even further burying their true feelings, instead of getting the proper help they so deserve. Most of…..if not all of the Abuser’s were once Victims themselves, as they have buried their true feelings so deep, that they really don’t feel anything for anyone/anything  anymore, so they then repeat the process that has happened to them subconsciously. This whole Society is a Society full of pain and hurt, whether we have become a Victim of sex abuse, or a Victim of a Bully, or whatever you have been a Victim of, none the less we are a Society full of pain and hurt, in which we all need to heal without the media making a spectacle of us, just so they can make a profit from the story. We all walk a path through this journey of life, there will be things that cross our paths that will bring us pain and hurt, we need to be better at understanding of these things, better at fixing ourselves, so we can move forward to be better and stronger, instead of suppressing our true feelings, then losing a big piece of who we truly are, so we than can walk in the peace and happiness that we all so deserve.

 

” You can walk down a slippery slope without falling and getting hurt, you just have to better understand of where you are and put one foot in front of the other”

” This Society of pain and hurt is affecting us all, time we find the empathy within us and help each other to be relieved from the pain and hurt”

” Sex abuse has been happening for generations upon generations, time we repair the link in the chain of the cycle, so we all can be at true peace”

” The main stream media is at the root of all the pain and hurt we all feel today, time we take back the control that they have over all of us”

” Sex abuse is never talked about because the shame controls us so much, time to reach out so we can better understand and take back the control from the shame”

 

 

 

 

 

The climb is tough, you grow stronger as you climb

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“The struggle is real, the climb is tough, but through the pain and the hurt, reaching the top will help you be stronger and better than ever”

 

I saw a post that Gold medal winner Aly Raisman put onto her social media and it sounds as if, some have taken offense to her coming out and speaking of her pain? Basically she was commenting on some comments to her post of some saying the woman/girls deserve what they get for the way they dress? Excuse me!!! this is nothing more than a rationalization by the Individuals commenting to her. Nobody asked to be treated the way a Victim of sexual abuse has been treated, they were groomed by an Individual who not only with his/her actions, speaks loudly to they need help, but it is also an excuse to rationalize their behavior and objectify others.

Objectification is something we all do without knowing it, instead of looking at someone to make ill comments of how they look, try looking at them as a person, someone that is a Human being as you and I, someone that is someones son, daughter, wife, husband etc…… We are all a human being that walks a path through this journey of life. It is very easy to look at each other as a person, it is even harder to objectify each other, but yet some will objectify, to rationalize away their actions, of grooming another, for their sick pleasure.

Aly Raisman is a very strong woman to come out and talk of the actions of another toward her, coming out for anybody within this screwed up society is very difficult, especially those that have been sexually abused, but when you do come out a very large weight has then been lifted from their shoulders, as now the difficult part has been done and the rest of the work to move forward in the healing process begins. The most difficult part of any healing process is the coming out to speak openly and candid of the situation, We in this screwed up society are too afraid to speak openly of any situation that may have others look at us differently, we fear that others may ridicule and make fun of us so much, we then bury deep within our real pain and hurt, which does nothing but have us become someone we truly are not.

This journey through life really isn’t that hard, only we as people walking our paths through this journey, make it very hard with our actions or inaction’s from doing nothing. if we only showed more empathy of each other, then we wouldn’t be objectifying each other, if only we truly felt the warmth of God’s love deep within our hearts and souls and then shared this love with each other, just maybe all this crap and ugliness within this society would disappear? We are all Human beings walking a path through this journey, we are all very similar to each other, as well as being very unique to each other, God put us here to use this uniqueness to be better and stronger moving forward, not to attack one another with our stupidity and our sick actions. The time is now for each of us to come out and heal together, so we all can walk our paths of this journey in peace and happiness always, everyday  with every step.

 

” Rationalization is simply a cop out excuse to excepting your actions and escaping any responsibility from your actions”

” To objectify is to make light of any action that you may enter into”

” It takes a sick Individual to groom another for their sick actions, instead of starting their own healing process moving forward”

 

 

Simply think before taking action…….

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” To take action before thinking through the results of that action, will almost always bring negativity and pain to your path of this journey”

 

There is beauty everywhere we look, just that we don’t take the time to look deeply into what we see. In this Society full of hatred and ugliness, we then let our judgments become clouded, as we hide our love and empathy deep within our souls. When our love and hatred are buried deep within, we then look the other way, when others around us are struggling or feeling real pain of their own. There is someone somewhere always going through some kind of struggle, but yet we tend to poke fun at them, so we can make light of the struggles we face and lighten our pain for which we feel. When we hear on the news of all the ugliness, we never once think of the Victim/Victims that the ugliness created? We have all been a Victim of something throughout this journey, whether it’s a Victim of a Bully, or maybe some kind of abuse, or whatever the case may be? we are all Victims of something and because of this, we have all hidden deeply our true feelings, empathy and love, just so we can move forward along our paths of this journey through life.

Then there are the ones within the main stream Media that uses their platform to voice their opinions, even if their opinion is right or wrong? The platform is there for you to do your job to the best of your ability, not to force your opinion on the rest of us. Just like that sports reporter on ESPN, she basically called our president a ” White Supremacist”? Hello!!! First of all he is our President and deserves all our respect, as being President is a 24/7 job, not to mention……….. A leader that is suppose to lead us moving forward to be better and stronger, no matter if you voted for him or not. The problem with the main stream Media is, they think they are smarter than the rest of, only because they have a platform and we don’t, well that platform is owned by the one who signs your paycheck and if you think of the ramifications of your actions, before you take the action of shoving your opinion down our throats, then maybe you wouldn’t of been suspended for your bad opinion. We all in this Society have taken many actions before we think through the action, only to later back pedal and try to make like the action was the fault of someone else. There is way too much finger pointing going on, with no one taking responsibility for their actions, it is time we all not only take responsibility, but we think through our actions, before we actually take the action.

Unlike in Hollywood where they have a script to follow and play a Fictitious part, this journey of life is real with no script and we learn as we go everyday. Yes we are going to make mistakes, yes we are going to feel real pain at different times in our lives, but in no way should this pain or mistakes, determine the out come of our journey, only if we think through our actions and take responsibility of our actions, then we all can move forward better and stronger. In this Society we get so over whelmed with all the crap, we then lose sight of who we truly are, which has us hide our true selves, replace with a Fake self, then try to keep moving forward as normal as we think normal is? But when we do this, we only compound everything, instead of truly fixing what we need to fix, so we than can keep moving forward better and stronger, on the path we chose, along this journey through life.

 

” We walk this journey once, why not walk it correctly, so we can rest in peace when the journey comes to an end”

” There is beauty in everything we see, we just have to look deeply into what we see to actually see it”

The main stream media abuses their platform, which has us all back pedaling to try to avoid all the ugliness:

” Hollywood may act a part within their fake reality, the rest of us are living reality, with real consequence for our actions”

 

 

A Country in need of proper Grieving……..

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With the most recent tragic shooting in the rear view mirror, let us all not only pray for Las Vegas, the victims and their families, but let us all pray for each other throughout the World, so we then can heal from all this hate and ugliness that surrounds us today.

The shooting in Las Vegas was not only a Heinous crime, but a crime of pure hate against us all, that walk a path through this journey of life. This person that carried out this shooting spree, I can’t even call a Human Being, as this person targeted many in cold blood and proves to me that, this person has lost who he truly was, totally lost the true feeling of God’s love deep within his soul, not to mention, the fact that he showed zero empathy of himself or anybody around him.

May God bless those that perished from such a horrific crime in Las Vegas and may God bless their families, as they try to heal from this tragedy. There are many within the hospitals of Vegas now that are healing their wounds, but will they ever heal their minds from such a tragic night? That is a question that only they can answer, as they are the ones that, went from a night of much happiness, to a night of horror which they will never forget and with that said, let us all pray for them in their time of healing, so God can work his magic for them to come back and join us within our Society, as good or better than they once were.

Now some may blame this on a gun? The blame really needs to be placed on the sick deranged Individual, that not only thought and planned this out, but a sick deranged Individual that not only lost his way or who he truly was, but a sick deranged Individual that, lost the true feeling of God’s love within his heart and soul, lost the true feeling of empathy deep within his soul, as if he most likely didn’t feel any empathy, because he then would never of done what he did.

Shame on our elected officials that instead of letting people Grieve properly after such a tragic event, instead they immediately put a Political spin on the event, which shows nothing but, we have some so called leaders that care nothing for nobody but themselves and proves further that, they can not do their jobs properly and need to go and make room for another elected official in their place. that will actually do the job. Now with that said, President Donald Trump going to Vegas and visiting the injured in the hospital, not only showed compassion and empathy for them, but showed that without a doubt, he is a great leader and may God bless him, so he can lead us all here in America to the promise land, so we all can be better and stronger moving forward.

Another factor that really needs to be addressed within this Society, that was front and center during this terrible and even now is, the fact that the so called media and the ones that write and report on the news, really need a big slap in the back of the head, so they can smarten up and actually learn to be a true writer once again. ” Fake News”!!! Um……… maybe more like people that have put their own agenda, ahead of the true facts, then twisting around the words of other’s, to fit within their agenda. Because your person did not get elected into the office of President, doesn’t mean you need to create fiction, instead of writing of true fact. Those of us writer’s like myself are getting bad names, simply because you knuckleheads within the media, can’t even do your jobs correctly anymore. Writing is an art form, that when done correctly makes one feel good, when they create true words, that captivates and makes others feel good as well. When you write for your publication just to keep an agenda, your not being a true writer and just maybe you need to change your line of work? True writing is not about deadlines and agendas, true writing is all about creating words with feelings, not just words that makes you the writer feel good, but makes your audience feel good as well and when there is no feeling involved, then your not really writing, all you are doing is putting words on paper, so you than can put the greed within your pockets.

We all walk a path through this journey of life, part of this journey is going to have some tragic events that will come to us, we need to be able to grieve properly, so the whole grieving process, will and can help us become better and stronger moving forward. Now it is true that we as Humans will never forget those we are closest to when they are taken from us, which makes the whole grieving process that much more important, so we can heal ourselves, get back on track and continue the journey moving forward better and stronger. A big part of the grieving process is, each one of us showing our true love of one another with each other, as well as showing our true empathy with each other as well. It is not about spinning a tragic event political, it is not about putting twisted words on paper for an agenda, so you than can put greed within your pockets, that is not God’s vision as he created us. We as Humans have screwed up totally of what God had envisioned for us, which is why we have so many tragic events within this society, We only think of ourselves and do for ourselves, only because the love of God, our true empathy and our compassion for one another, is buried so deep within us. We need to dig down deep and retrieve it once again, so we all can move forward better and stronger, within the peace and happiness, that God envisioned for us, when he created each one of us, from the beginning of Mankind.

 

” The true grieving process is full of love and empathy, it is nothing about agendas or greed”

” True leaders are like President Donald Trump, a leader does not spin a tragedy for their own agenda”

” Writing is an art form that shows true creativity, it is nothing about twisting words to make good on an agenda”

” God’s vision in this journey through life, is all about love, peace and happiness, it is nothing about greed or agendas”

 

A Slice of Americana………….

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We here in America live in a Country that is not only the best Country, but we are able to roam free throughout this great country and truly see all the beauty it holds. Pictures like this one can be taken in anywhere U. S. A. The rural setting, the green grass, the vintage trailer and the tractor or maybe the truck suits you better? This is what hard work within this country will bring you, not too mention being able to drive where ever we want to within the truck, seeing the beauty of this country.

Unfortunately we in this country take so much for granted, that we don’t really look deeply into what we see anymore. I get the fact that we all go through struggling times…………. Times that bring us much pain and hurt, which then changes who we truly are, then we let the pain and hurt dictate how we walk our paths of this journey, instead of taking the time to fix and heal ourselves from the pain and hurt, so we than can dictate how we ourselves walk our paths through this journey of life. There is no text book to read and study of this journey, but if we stay true to ourselves, have total faith in Jesus Christ, we then can see the signs and messages he sends us, so we then can follow in his foot steps, to let him guide us to the path of righteousness and as he showed us, when he to came here and walked his journey with us.

The biggest thing we take for granted within this country is each other, through all the ugliness and the hatred, we lack the trust and show no empathy or love for each other anymore and when these three are non existent in our lives, we then move forward within this troubled Society. This troubled Society goes a lot further then just here in this country, it also is spread around this planet Earth and all the other countries within it, then you have other leaders of these countries, that are what we call Dictators and what a Dictator is, a person that will tell you where to go, what to do and you have no choice but to do just that? Now some may escape and try to get asylum here in this country, I get the fact that this country was based on Immigration, but immigration done the correct way and not sneaking into this country, just to hide and escape, from the country of their origin. Then you have the ones from a more sympathy side, like a Refugee, well I feel bad for these Refugee’s, but this day and age, you just don’t know who these people are and just maybe, some of the Terrorists are hiding within them, just for easy access in here, so they than can implant themselves among us, just to carry out their agenda of, inflicting more fear, pain and hurt on all of us.

With these Dictator’s like the one in North Korea, he seriously is one that is a few cards short of a full deck, who in their right mind would create weapons, that would take out all innocence around the world? Only ones that have zero love and empathy deep within their souls, only ones that have only one interest or agenda and that is, Greed. Dictator’s like this knucklehead in North Korea are one thing and one thing only, a Bully. We all know what a Bully is? A Bully is someone that inflicts fear in their Victims, so they themselves can seem on the outside as a powerful person. We all have been a victim of a Bully at one point or another within our lives, so I know we all know just how to deal with these Bullies and that is, to stand up to them, look them square in the eye and put the fear they put in  you, right back into them, so they then cower away like the true Coward they are.

After listening to President Trump give his speech within the walls of the United Nations building, I can say right now that, I am very proud to call myself an American. We finally have a President that gets it, we finally have a President that stands tall against all the ugliness of the World and I am very proud, to call him my President, plus I will stand tall with him and have his back at every turn. The last eight years in this country have been failed leadership and a president that says ” I am sorry”, just to make America seem weak, we now have a real leader, that has the best interest of all Americans in his hands, while showing others, that we are not weak and will stand up to any Bully, or any other, that wishes to bring harm to fellow Americans.

With all the Terror attacks that are happening in Britain, you think they need to change their policies on immigration? Simply because that is how the Terrorists are getting in, so with that said, I say to our President Trump and those within our Government, ” BUILD THAT WALL!!!” We here in America need to build the wall on our southern border, maybe shut the borders for a short time? Fix what we need to fix, so we all can move forward better and stronger. Our immigration process needs to change, or we just might be in the same predicament as Britain?  Now there is a strong chance that these sick Terrorists are already in here and within their cells plotting their moves? Plus all the left wing Democrats will never want to change the immigration process, cause these Individuals whether they are legal or illegal, are the votes that the Democrats want, so they can get all the power within this country. What I say to the Democrats is, ” it is time to man up, stand tall for the good of America and if you can’t handle the job, then simply don’t run for any office within our Government”. God bless the United States of America and God bless President Trump, so we all can move forward better and stronger, to totally see all the real beauty within the borders, of the greatest country, as we all walk our paths through this journey of life.

 

”  Freedom is not really free, freedom comes with a price, the men and woman who have served this great country, have paid that price for all of us”

” When we know of who we truly are, we can do anything we want and we can also show the love we feel deeply inside with all that is around us”

” A Dictator is someone that will control all that we are, instead of we ourselves controlling who we truly are”

” Building a wall may help to control the Illegal ones from gaining access to all that we have and robbing us of our own self worth”