Words of Wisdom through all the real pain and hurt

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My little Buddy needs to make another appearance with his words of wisdom, so we can get away from all the ugliness, hatred, real pain and hurt. The time is now to show the empathy that is within us all, share it with each other, so we all can walk our paths of this journey in the peace and happiness we all so deserve. Martin Richards had a heart of Gold, an innocent young eight year old boy, that was tragically taken from this Society, by two sick Individuals who were in need of some major psychological help. During the Boston Marathon bombings……… #bostonstrong  one of the bombs were placed right at the feet of where he was standing, he had no chance to avoid what was about to happen.

 

” We all have felt some real pain and hurt at sometime, but we have never let ourselves truly heal fully from the pain and hurt”

 

Since this #meto has been on twitter then with the way and the speed it has gone viral, clearly shows there are more than we ever imagined, that feel this real pain and hurt deep within. We have all been a Victim of something along our paths, whether from sex abuse, a Bully, or maybe been robbed and your personal belongings taken from where we live? Whatever the case may be, we have all suffered being a Victim of something, but instead of understanding our situation and fixing whatever we need to be better and stronger, we have gone totally in the other direction and deeply suppressed our true feelings and emotions to the point of, we not only lost our true empathy, we have lost what it feels like to truly feel the love of God, deep within our hearts and souls, so now we can’t share with each other.

Because of all this pain and hurt, there is also no trust of one another anywhere. It used to so that you knew your neighbor next door, now not only do we not know who our neighbors are, but we do not know of who anybody is anywhere, from where ever we may go. We have gone from walking our paths peacefully, to walking with chaos and crap all around us.

With all these Celebrities being outed for all their deranged actions, shows that the rest of us have no clue, of just how many Victims that has been created? Plus the ones who created the Victims has no clue of, just how much damage their actions have done. Denial may just look like a word, but it is a strong word, that has us rationalize away our actions, so we can make light of any heavy situations. Shame also may be just a word, but it is a very strong word, that will control every fiber of our being, if we really let it. Through the Denial we simply do not take responsibility for our actions and then rationalize them away and deflect them from ourselves, through the shame we then bury very deeply our true feelings and emotions, as to try to keep the real pain and hurt from affecting us anymore, we do this all within our subconscious, so we then can try to move forward in the reality of our Society, to show on the outside that we are as normal as normal can be, so others around us will think we are normal. We all walk a path through this journey of life, nobody is perfect along this journey, but when we respect and trust one another, then this journey will always bring us the peace and happiness we all so deserve.

 

”  Denial is a way to rationalize away any actions so we don’t have to take responsibility for the action”

” Shame is very powerful and forces us to deeply suppress our true feelings and emotions, to try to deflect the pain and hurt”

” Victims need the time and space to truly heal from the wounds, so they can move forward better and stronger”

” Before you take action to the action, first you have to think through the action in order to not bring the pain, hurt and shame, to those around you”

 

 

 

 

 

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 The slippery slopes of life

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The beautiful ski mountain in the summer months, full of green grass and green evergreen tree’s. Once winter comes and these slopes disappear and gives way to the white of the snow, now these slopes become slippery, as you swish your way down with the ski’s beneath your feet.

Within this Society and now that the #meto has gone viral throughout, there are a lot of people hurting deep within. Now with most of the ones coming out, all we hear are the ones that are rich and famous, what we don’t hear are the regular types that are still dealing with their pain and hurt, simply because the shame that they feel is so powerful, it makes it very difficult to talk openly from this kind of abuse. Plus the fact that we are within a Society that can’t truly feel the empathy that is deep within us all, that we don’t truly feel anything for who is around us.

Most of this #meto backlash we are experiencing right now is Media driven and the problem with that is, the media cares nothing for the Victim of the abuse, all they care about is making a story, keeping their agendas and putting money in their pockets, as they go forward with the  take down of the rich and famous. This problem of the Sex abuse we are seeing is, it has affected way more than we think we know, just that the Bias Media will only follow up on the ones that suit them and their agendas.

Now really what business does the Media have in getting into such a hot topic today? Really they should stay out of this topic, as the real Victim needs to heal from all the pain and hurt they have been hiding for way too long. The media has this problem of sticking their noses in places where they really should not, because to truly heal from the real pain and hurt, you don’t need Reporters and camera’ s in your face everyday. Just as when the shooting in Vegas took place, the media was their interviewing ones that just lost a loved one and they didn’t even give these people a chance to truly grieve, so they can heal from the pain of losing their loved one so tragically., all just so they can keep their agendas and keep putting money in their pockets. This all comes down to Human ethics and the media has no clue on what this truly is.

To truly heal from such abuse like sex abuse, just don’t happen overnight and through the media, it takes time to truly heal from this, as it comes from a sick Individual that has groomed and gained the trust of their Victims for so long, that the Victim then buries their true feelings deep within themselves, so they can try to keep moving forward like they as normal as normal can be. Then as the media makes a story out of it just to keep their agenda, now you have a Victim even further burying their true feelings, instead of getting the proper help they so deserve. Most of…..if not all of the Abuser’s were once Victims themselves, as they have buried their true feelings so deep, that they really don’t feel anything for anyone/anything  anymore, so they then repeat the process that has happened to them subconsciously. This whole Society is a Society full of pain and hurt, whether we have become a Victim of sex abuse, or a Victim of a Bully, or whatever you have been a Victim of, none the less we are a Society full of pain and hurt, in which we all need to heal without the media making a spectacle of us, just so they can make a profit from the story. We all walk a path through this journey of life, there will be things that cross our paths that will bring us pain and hurt, we need to be better at understanding of these things, better at fixing ourselves, so we can move forward to be better and stronger, instead of suppressing our true feelings, then losing a big piece of who we truly are, so we than can walk in the peace and happiness that we all so deserve.

 

” You can walk down a slippery slope without falling and getting hurt, you just have to better understand of where you are and put one foot in front of the other”

” This Society of pain and hurt is affecting us all, time we find the empathy within us and help each other to be relieved from the pain and hurt”

” Sex abuse has been happening for generations upon generations, time we repair the link in the chain of the cycle, so we all can be at true peace”

” The main stream media is at the root of all the pain and hurt we all feel today, time we take back the control that they have over all of us”

” Sex abuse is never talked about because the shame controls us so much, time to reach out so we can better understand and take back the control from the shame”

 

 

 

 

 

Look deeply into the true beauty of life

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” The beauty is there all around us, just look deeply into what you see, instead of glancing superficially at what you think you see”

 

Melania Trump is one of the classiest First Ladies of our time, I don’t know if you seen what she has done to the White House, as far as the Christmas decorating, but she has turned the interior of 1600 Pennsylvania avenue into a grand Christmas spectacle. The choice of attire she wore as she opened up the viewing for all to see, well…………. let’s just say she looked liked an angel from God. The inside of the White House looks amazing and very festive in Christmas spirit. Yes it is true our First Lady is an immigrant, that has come here the correct way and became a United States Citizen, we all are a product of an immigrant that has come here the right way, for a better lifestyle, there is nothing wrong with that, but when you sneak into this country and rob the hard working Citizen of what they work hard for, or even sneak into this country and bring chaos to, or kill us Americans, now there is a huge problem that needs to be addressed and fixed, so the rest of us hard working Americans, can be at peace and happiness, to enjoy the fruits of our hard work.

The beauty within the walls of 1600 Pennsylvania avenue, from the work of our First lady and her staff of the true meaning of Christmas, is a must see to all who truly sees Christmas as a Holiday of love and beauty. Christmas is the celebration of and the birth of, our Savior Jesus Christ. Who came to us and walked his journey to teach us and show us with his actions, of how to truly feel the love of his father that is within us and share this love with each other. The true Christmas spirit is about not just love of family, but the love of each other and not just for one time a year, but for everyday of the years to come, which is something in this Society full of ugliness and hatred, that we have totally taken for granted, simply because we have all let the clouds of our judgments take control of who we truly are.

The true Christmas spirit will fill our hearts and souls, with the warm feeling of love. The same love that God our father and his son Jesus Christ has for each of us and that we share with each other always. It is very easy to truly feel the warmth of this love, what we get so confused with is, all the ugliness and hatred around us is much harder to share, or even to keep going as we see, some may think the opposite, but in reality, it is much easier to feel the warmth of this love and then share it with each other.

True Christmas spirit is the giving of oneself and the love within your heart and soul, it is not about what others can give you, as with all the commercialization of this Holiday will have you think? The true Christmas spirit is not about going to the store and giving the biggest and best gift, it is all about giving the biggest and best gift of yourself and with the warmth of the love within you. When we do this and without thinking of what we are doing, just letting the love flow naturally, this is what heats our hearts and souls with the warmth, then as the love spreads all around us, will the ugliness and hatred disappear, with no room at the Inn of life. The true spirit of Christmas and feeling the warmth of God’s love within us, will we then walk our paths through this journey of life, in the peace and happiness we all so deserve.

 

”   The true spirit of Christmas is within us all, the only thing we have to do is, truly feel the warmth in our hearts and souls, then share it with each other”

” May the ugliness and hatred give way to the true spirit of Christmas, so we all can be at peace and happiness always”

” The power of the Holy Spirit is within us all and helps us unleash the power of the true spirit of Christmas, so we can share our love with each other”

” The true spirit of Christmas is the giving of one self and our love toward one another”

 

 

 

 

 

The Family foundation will never steer you wrong, it may become cracked, but the love will always keep it strong

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” Then the King will say to those on his right, come….. You are blessed by my father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the World”

*** Mt 25:34***

 

With every foundation it needs to be layered properly and with care, so it than can protect and be sturdy enough to last the test of time. A good sturdy foundation needs to handled with care, so it’s true strength can be felt later on down the road, of all our paths of this journey through life. A Family foundation is the most important foundation we will ever lay, this foundation will never be laid over night, it will take time to lay this foundation properly, but when we do it right, it will become the strongest of all the foundations, for which we will ever build.

Love is the one key ingredient in laying our family foundation, with love each brick in the foundation, will be strengthened by each other and when laid correctly, will not only make our family foundation strong, but will make the family bond be so strong, that nothing will ever break it.

Throughout the history of Mankind, there have been so much that tries to come between a families bond and it’s foundation, true there may be a wedge driven between the cracks of the foundation to divide us, but when we stay true to the love of the bond, stay true to ourselves always, keep total faith in the foundation, all the cracks formed from the wedge, will disappear making our foundation stronger than ever. There is nothing ever that will crumble our family foundation, when we stay true to who we are, stay true to the love of God within us, then as a family we will work together in repairing the cracks from the wedge.

There is no wedge big enough to crumble a families bond, let alone the family foundation. True these wedges will try to control us individually and take away our love of family, if we let them. The love never leaves us, only we bury the love so deep within, that we move forward like it was never there? We then become part of the wedge as it goes deeper into the foundation, there will be other factors to sway on the side of the wedge, which will bring much pain and hurt to us, but instead of truly understanding of the why’s, we then in order to try to get rid of the pain and hurt, bury it deep within and become someone we truly are not and in some cases, without realizing we have become someone else. With all the crap and the ugliness within this Society, it all starts with our Family foundation and bond, when there is a lack of these two, we then bring it to the rest of the Society and a lot of times without truly realizing of what we are doing. A Society is formed around each of us and what we bring to it, when the family foundation is cracked and the family bond is broken, this is how the Society around us becomes broken as well.

The true light of God is always within us, his love never leaves us, only we as people are the ones who make the choice of truly feeling God’s love deep within  our hearts and souls. When we grow within our families and when things get a bit bumpy in the building of the foundation and the bond, this is when we need to be at our strongest and not walk away, without truly laying the bricks of love on the foundation, when we walk away then we don’t give the bond a chance to form and be the strongest that it can be. When we begin our path through this journey of life, we are tiny and frail, we need guidance and have to be fed, without these then we are left alone, then we bring this to a Society of many. When we are alone it becomes very hard to have faith in anything, let alone ourselves, we lose the warm feeling within us that is the love of God. The family foundation and the family bond is so critical to each of us, as we walk our paths of this journey, that without it, we then become lost and just wander along our paths, with no set purpose in life, then we take this to a Society, which then becomes broken as we are. God’s love is always within us as we walk this journey, all we need to do is, have complete faith in ourselves and in him, so we can truly feel the warmth of his love deep within our hearts and souls, then all the foundations can be repaired by each of us, one brick at a time.

 

” A good foundation isn’t just laid on top of each other, you place the bricks together with the love of God one by one with each other”

” A family foundation and a family bond will never be broken, when built with true love and with all being true to themselves”

” The light of God is that warm feeling within your hearts and souls, that is God’s love within us all for each of us to share with each other”

” Love is the one key ingredient in the building of a strong foundation, so we all can walk in peace and be happy at every turn”

 

 

 

 

Let the carving begin…….

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We as Humans like the water in this creek, carve a path throughout a journey. The water carves it’s path through the most difficult of terrain, as do we as well, sometimes the water will fall over an edge, as do we, but it is not about the fall, it is all about on how you land and pick yourself up from the fall, that determines on how you move forward to be better and stronger. Every living thing embarks on a journey, that they can move forward with strength and learn to adjust, to anything that may cross their path, throughout this journey of life.

 

Now you may think of an inanimate object is not traveling a journey, but on the contrary, they have been placed in their location for a purpose, maybe they have found that purpose, or maybe they have not? Everything has a purpose, some may find their purpose and still struggle with ever finding their purpose. Every living thing isn’t here to either look nice, or wander through a journey, we all carve our paths throughout a journey. Yes there will be cross roads within all the paths, with trust, faith and hope, these cross roads will keep us grounded. as we make the right choices, to the direction we take. Choices are the components to the journey, that helps us in truly finding our purpose, as the crossroads will keep our choices crisp, while we stay focused on the faith, trust and hope.

There is a lot of carving throughout this journey of life, but none more than the carving we do on Thanksgiving. The carving of the Turkey, some may fear this task as they don’t want it to look disastrous, some make it look so easy which intimidates the ones who fear it, There is no real true way to carving the turkey, or any other kind of meat, it is okay to make a few mistakes along the way, just as long as you learn from what you did and be better for it moving forward. Now the carving through this journey of life is far different, than the carving of a bird for a meal, but the concept of being intimidated and making a mistake is for real, that fears us all and then has us not truly carving a path through this journey, as we then simply just follow a path, without having to carve anything, all this will do is, just keep us from being confident of what we do, as well as having the confidence in who we truly are.

In Skiing we carve a turn, so we can slice through the snow with ease and when we don’t have the confidence to carve the turn, then our turn will be a bit rough, or maybe we will just sink into the snow? None the less, good carving of anything takes practice and the more we practice, the better we are at all the carvings throughout this journey of life.

 

” Carving is not just a culinary term, as all we do is carve something or somewhere throughout this journey”

” Confidence is the one thing that gives us the strength to do whatever we want to do”

” It is okay to make mistakes, as long as we learn from them moving forward”

” We all fear something, but with confidence it makes the fear less of”

 

 

Traditional America or the traditions within America

" Spread more love and this beauty will be seen by all"

 

The seventh century brought a tradition to the American soil, that since has prospered into one of the greatest traditions within this country, The Thanksgiving meal has changed greatly over time within this country, it was a grand feast between the Native Wampanoag Indian Tribe and the Pilgrims who were the visitors and looking for new territory with a fresh start.

The feast from then to now has changed greatly over time, a lot of product has been added since the very first Thanksgiving meal, like there was no pumpkin pies as there where no flours back then yet to make the dough for the pies, so instead there was pumpkin and other squashes brought to the feast. There was a variety of fruits that was grown back then, with cranberries being one of them and yes they did make their very own cranberry sauce as well. Turkey yes was the main dish, with the Wampanoag’s bringing Venison (deer meat) to the feast, plus there were other poultry like Goose and Duck, not too mention seafood like lobster, clams, mussels and fish to the table. Because of the lack of flour back then, there was no bread based stuffing, instead there was stuffing made with onions, herbs and nuts to flavor the bird during cooking, with the venison being cooked over the fire on the spit. This was a whole different feast back then compared to the feast of today.

The very first Thanksgiving feast was altogether different than what we are accustomed to today, as it brought together two very different groups of Human beings, from two very different walks of life. If anything we can look back into a time that, yes when we come together in harmony, beautiful things will become of our paths through this journey of life, as today only shows that, when we are divided, then all hell breaks loose, with much ugliness and hatred like we see today. There is more to this journey than looking at one another on the surface and when we look deeply into what we see, then and only then will we, truly see what we are looking at, with all the true beauty that is around us everyday.

The Native Wampanoag tribe and the Pilgrims showed us how to come together in harmony and work together to be better and stronger. Whatever that may have happened from that time to now, is totally on the us the people, as through time and with all the technology of today, we have become so lazy and stupid, that we can not even enjoy the true traditions, that have built this countries foundation. Right now our foundation of this great country has some cracks, the time is now to seal the cracks, so we all can walk our paths together in harmony throughout this journey in life, so we all can experience true peace and happiness everyday.

 

” Traditions may vary from person to person, but true traditions of an era will never ever vary”

” Wampanoag Indian tribe were the true natives of America as they came together with the pilgrims who came as the outsider looking to move in”

” Thanksgiving meal has changed through the years, which shows just how change can affect us all”

” Turkey, Venison, fish, no matter of the main  course, it is still a grand feast to be had by all”

 

 

 

 

The climb is tough, you grow stronger as you climb

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“The struggle is real, the climb is tough, but through the pain and the hurt, reaching the top will help you be stronger and better than ever”

 

I saw a post that Gold medal winner Aly Raisman put onto her social media and it sounds as if, some have taken offense to her coming out and speaking of her pain? Basically she was commenting on some comments to her post of some saying the woman/girls deserve what they get for the way they dress? Excuse me!!! this is nothing more than a rationalization by the Individuals commenting to her. Nobody asked to be treated the way a Victim of sexual abuse has been treated, they were groomed by an Individual who not only with his/her actions, speaks loudly to they need help, but it is also an excuse to rationalize their behavior and objectify others.

Objectification is something we all do without knowing it, instead of looking at someone to make ill comments of how they look, try looking at them as a person, someone that is a Human being as you and I, someone that is someones son, daughter, wife, husband etc…… We are all a human being that walks a path through this journey of life. It is very easy to look at each other as a person, it is even harder to objectify each other, but yet some will objectify, to rationalize away their actions, of grooming another, for their sick pleasure.

Aly Raisman is a very strong woman to come out and talk of the actions of another toward her, coming out for anybody within this screwed up society is very difficult, especially those that have been sexually abused, but when you do come out a very large weight has then been lifted from their shoulders, as now the difficult part has been done and the rest of the work to move forward in the healing process begins. The most difficult part of any healing process is the coming out to speak openly and candid of the situation, We in this screwed up society are too afraid to speak openly of any situation that may have others look at us differently, we fear that others may ridicule and make fun of us so much, we then bury deep within our real pain and hurt, which does nothing but have us become someone we truly are not.

This journey through life really isn’t that hard, only we as people walking our paths through this journey, make it very hard with our actions or inaction’s from doing nothing. if we only showed more empathy of each other, then we wouldn’t be objectifying each other, if only we truly felt the warmth of God’s love deep within our hearts and souls and then shared this love with each other, just maybe all this crap and ugliness within this society would disappear? We are all Human beings walking a path through this journey, we are all very similar to each other, as well as being very unique to each other, God put us here to use this uniqueness to be better and stronger moving forward, not to attack one another with our stupidity and our sick actions. The time is now for each of us to come out and heal together, so we all can walk our paths of this journey in peace and happiness always, everyday  with every step.

 

” Rationalization is simply a cop out excuse to excepting your actions and escaping any responsibility from your actions”

” To objectify is to make light of any action that you may enter into”

” It takes a sick Individual to groom another for their sick actions, instead of starting their own healing process moving forward”