Within this Society today of high technology, social media, and the fact that we are taught to “man up” cause words can’t hurt you only because there is no physicality, sorry but who ever says words don’t hurt, needs to re think the way they think.
The words people use have the same effect on another person as if they literally beat the snot out of another person, the choice of words someone may use, is very much in the same class as physical abuse, some may disagree cause there is no being physical or laying a hand on another, but what you do to their way of thinking of themselves and others around them, hurts them far worse than beating the crap out of them and even worse, these words don’t leave a mark on the exterior, but the marks they make internally, can and will last a lifetime
While we grow from a young boy/girl, we are like a sponge soaking up everything around us, during this stage in life there will be others that try to influence us any way they can, because we as a young child don’t know any better and are in the learning stages of life, we get sucked in to whatever they are trying to influence us to, there will also be others that use being physical as their way of control much like a school bully, then because we are like the sponge soaking things in, we tend to take the abuse instead of standing up against it, then as that little boy/girl through the fear of the situation, learn to bury the pain inside and not communicate externally, in order to truly make the pain go away, now you have a troubled Society we all are a part of.
There are many ways that abuse will come into our lives, even as an adult in our jobs from someone superior to ourselves, abuse can be mental as well as physical, whether you lay your hands on someone, or you simply use the wrong words at the wrong time, words can and will be more powerful than being punched in the face by another. Social Media today proves just how true this theory is, now that we have a new Bully in town and it is called, “Cyber Bully”.
The scars from a verbal assault can and will last a lifetime, the scars from a punch in the face may hurt for a short time, but will heal over time, when we have internal scars the pain is great and we try anything to rid ourselves from it. We become someone we truly are not, in order to try to keep the internal scars from hurting us further, we suppress deep within ourselves our true feelings and emotions, we numb ourselves to everything around, so as nothing else will bring this pain to us again, but the words keep coming, we keep suppressing, til one day an explosion of ourselves that has built up over time, then the unthinkable happens and no more pain anymore, except we are no longer around to truly feel our real feelings and emotions, or the ones close to us will forever miss us, when we are no longer there.
This is what a Bully does to their Victims, it doesn’t matter how the Bully does it, whether at school, the work place, or cyber through social media, even someone who abuses another in any way shape or form is also considered a Bully, as they all use fear to control their Victims, the power of control is the end game for any Bully and when the Victim gives them that by, suppressing their true selves deep inside themselves, the Bully will continue what they are doing. The way you fight a Bully is, stand up to them, show them no fear and more importantly, stay true to who you are always, never lose touch of your true feelings and emotions, when you are true to yourself, there are no words that can be said, to hurt you deeply inside, words whether coming from someones mouth or typed into the cyber world, are just that…words, they originate from someone, somewhere and when we stand up to that someone, there is no where they can hurt us anymore.
” When words are said in a beautiful way they can inspire us all, when they are said in a negative or harming way they can hurt us in many ways”
” A Bully uses fear to control their Victims, a Bully can come to us in many ways, whether physical, use of words, or typing into the world of cyber”
” When we stay true to who we are and keep in touch with our true feelings and emotions, there is no end to us accomplishing great things, its when we suppress ourselves deep within, that we become someone we truly are not”