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Is the glass half empty or is it really half full…………….

robin           Robin Williams was a brilliant, caring and loving man. A man that to most, was looked at as being funny with all the comedies he has acted in.  As Robin Williams made us all laugh for as long as he did, he was hiding a huge part of himself deep within his sole and that part was eating him from the inside out. Depression…… A word we don’t truly understand fully, as this word affects us in many different ways. Most people think that when you are depressed, your supposed to be all alone, your crying a lot,  always sad and almost never smile at anything. The true fact of depression is, you can function and externally carry on like nothing is wrong when you are around others, but when you are in the safe zone of your house Depression will then hit you very hard, you will have many thoughts roam within your head, but none more than the thought of, I don’t want to walk this path of this journey of life anymore.

Depression is the real true silent Killer, it will eat you alive from the inside out, depression will strip us from having true feelings and rob us from our true emotions. A lot of times Depression is triggered by a tragic event that may happen to us, we get lost within the clouds of our thoughts and as we are lost, we then move forward without showing to others around us, that we are troubled and don’t want to show weakness, as we think others will think of us as  lesser. When Deep Depression hits we will do and try anything, to not let it show to others around us, even though our feelings and emotions are not truly protecting us like they would when we are truly healthy. Through deep Depression we don’t truly acknowledge what is happening to us, we bury deep within our souls our true feelings and emotions, so we can function and move forward, as normal as we think normal is.

Shame is a big word right next to the word Depression. when we are full of shame we then become someone we truly are not, when we are shamed we lose our true feelings and emotions, we lose a huge piece of who we are and we hide within ourselves, to try to protect ourselves from further pain and shame. Depression and shame are like faith and hope, You need to have faith so you can have any hope, as you are shamed first which brings out the Depression. But!!! when you are shamed and depressed, you have no idea how to have faith, which leaves no hope in your future.

When we are depressed we don’t want anything to do with anybody, we want to be alone with no one around, basically we want to curl up in a ball and roll away from everybody around us. Then when we do go out and about within Society, we will with a fake self, as our true self is hidden deep within our core, to further protect ourselves from further harm, shame, pain and hurt. Depression will have us question ourselves and why do I feel this way? We won’t even see the glass as half empty or full, as it is only a glass in which to drink whatever is in the glass.

Robin Williams was a very funny Man and could also play the serious role just as good as the comedy role, he wanted to make us all laugh because, he was hurting very deeply inside with Depression and he hid it well from all of us, for which he made laugh everyday, this was his way of not acknowledging this sickness of Depression, hiding his pain so he can try to move forward as normal as he thought normal was. There are a lot of other People out there like Robin Williams, we don’t hear from them much, cause they are not only hiding from us, they are also hiding from themselves as well. In order to be able to help ourselves and those around us, we need to be able to better understand Depression and the many ways it can affect us, so we all can walk our paths along this journey of life, as healthy and happy as we possibly can.

” Depression is a sneaky little Illness that will take you over before you least expect it”

” Robin Williams the funny man……but deep within his core he was more troubled than he was funny”

” Shame…Depression…Faith…Hope, these are all words….but these words are more powerful than we really give them credit for, cause we don’t truly understand them”

The path of a Bully is the path of much hidden pain………

” We all walk a path through this journey of life, some may try to take advantage of others as they walk their paths along their journey they walk”

A Bully is a Human being just like you and me, only these types that take to Bullying, have great hidden pain that they hide deep within and instead of understanding this pain and fixing themselves, they take to inflicting fear in those around them, in order to try to seem more powerful then all others.

A Bully can come from anyone of us, any kind of action you take that has others fear to cross your path is a form of Bullying. A Bully can be a school teacher to their students, a Boss to their employee’s, a Classmate that you think is your friend? A Bully can be anyone of us that seek power over another.

When you are a Victim of a Bully you are ashamed to communicate to anybody of your fear, you become like this tree in the middle of the picture and seem very alone, with what you think is no where to turn? Just as the Bully has great pain hidden deep within their sole, the Victim also now has great pain hidden deep within their sole and now you have many Individuals that are spinning out of control, instead of understanding their issues better, fixing them so they can be better and stronger moving forward, along their paths of this journey of life.

All those Terrorists we see and hear about, whether abroad or here within our Country, they to are simply a Bully, only this is the modern day Bully that uses violence in order to inflict fear on a larger scale, or to a greater amount of Victims than a Bully that terrorizes an Individual. This idea a Terrorist has that, the more they kill or terrorize the better place they go when they die? This is crap and God sees right through this theory as they to meet their maker at the Pearly Gates. When a Bully inflicts their fear on each of us, there are no winners and losers here, only we all lose as this Society becomes a broken Society, with each one of us looking over our shoulder at each turn of the path.

We all make fun of the idea that the Kid in school puts fear in another classmate, so they can get their lunch money? What we are truly doing is fueling this small time Bully to become a big time Bully later in their lives. Everything we do starts somewhere no matter what it is we do, even all this hate of each other started somewhere and became learned by each of us. God did not create Mankind to be this way, this is all on us as we have learned this from somewhere, so we can put ourselves above each other, as we all walk our paths along this journey of life.

Hatred is something we have learned from somewhere along our paths of this journey, a Bully only inflicts fear on others, so they can seem more powerful to others as they hide deeply within their sole, their own hurt and pain and not seem weak to those around them. instead of truly understanding their pain and hurt so they can truly fix themselves. Only if we all better understand everything that may happen to us, better understand all the pain and hurt that may happen to us, not suppress and bury all this pain and hurt deep within our soles, just maybe we all can walk our paths of this journey through life safely and in peace, as we all share our love of one another (which is within us all), instead of learning to hate one another, so we all fear each other to the point we then learn to hate one another.

” Hate is something we learn from somewhere, love is natural and within us all”

” A Bully is a person that has hidden deep within their sole all their pain and hurt, so they can then terrorize and put fear within the rest of us”

” We are all Children of God and he did not create Mankind for us to hate each other, as he put his love within all our hearts, for us to spread to each other”

The Hardest of Hearts……….


I chose this picture once again cause it is of young eight year old Martin Richard, a young boy who was tragically taken from us, by two Individuals with the hardest of hearts. This  young boy was an innocent Victim of a senseless tragedy and this sign he holds here, is a symbol of what might of come from this young boy.

We all grow from a young age and as a child we are all precious in our own ways. When we are little we have no hate of anything and everything us around is an equal, we play with other children within our communities and welcome everybody no matter what their background, skin color, or where they are from. Our children are true gifts from God to us and we all can learn from these children, as much as we teach them to grow within Society.

With all this hate and ugliness around us today ( which the Media like to make bigger than it really is) and the fact that we as a child have none of this, shows that we as people learn and create this hate and ugliness from somewhere as our hearts become hardened and cold. Children are a sponge and soak up everything around them as they grow into Society, as innocent as a child is, they become a product of what is around them and when they are raised with hate of everything around them, they then get filled with it and the hardened heart syndrome then begins, with the coldness yet to come.

Children are a product of the love between a loving Man and a Woman, that are showing their love of one another to all that is around them. Children are not something that helps you get more free money from the Government, so you don’t have to go out and earn a living. When you raise a precious child for all the wrong reasons, this is where all the hatred is then learned from the child and starts the hardening and coldness of the heart. All this hatred, racism and ugliness is learned from somewhere, it is not in any way a part of us, as God did not create Mankind to be this way.

“When God created Mankind he did so out of love and filled our hearts with the warmth of this love, everything else is learned as we grow within Society. Our hearts only become hardened and cold, when we don’t acknowledge the love of God within our hearts”.

We as children learn everything that is around us at a young age, if that is a world of hate, then this is what we learn and take with us as we grow into Society. When we suffer through some Life events as a child and we think we have no where to turn, then these events teaches us to be hateful of everything around, as we try to keep ourselves safe from further events that may cross our paths. Quite simply we as children become a product of what is around us and when that is a world of hate, then it snow balls as these children are grown up into Society with the Hardest of Hearts, as there heart is full of coldness, instead of the warmth of God’s love. We all walk a path through this journey of life, we all learn from a young age how to walk these paths, so we can try to walk these journey’s as safely as we think safe is, what we need to do more of is, trust in God and Jesus more, as their love for us never leaves us, trust, have faith and forgive ourselves, so we then can do the same of each other, so our hearts will be filled with the warmth of true love and not hardened with the coldest of hearts, which does nothing but spread more hatred and ugliness around us further.

” A cold and hardened heart is learned from a young age, the warmth of God’s love is always within our hearts, all we need to do is accept and acknowledge it”

” A Child is precious and pure full of love of everything around them, the hate and ugliness is learned from what is around them as they grow into Society”

” When a heart becomes hardened and cold, it is because of what is around it, as we grow from a young age it forces us to become someone for which we truly are not”

” God’s love never fails us, it is us that fails ourselves”

Trekking through the Wilderness and exploring what we normally don’t see

          Throughout our Society of today and as we walk our paths through this journey of life, we all get caught up in the everyday living, the going to work to earn money needed, in order to provide for ourselves and our families, we also get caught into our comfort zones to try to stay safe, without any unnecessary harm coming to us. When we are in these comfort zones we don’t look at what is all around us, as we only see what we want to see, without exploring and learning more so we can be better and stronger along this journey through life.

Trekking through the Wilderness will get us outdoors to explore and see what is around us within places we normally wouldn’t go, We totally see that there is a beautiful side to our journey through life, instead of the grind of work to make ends meet, we also find it relaxing to get outside and see the true beauty of the Wilderness and all the different kinds of animal life, as well as all the different varieties of plant life, that we don’t see within the thickly settled civilization in which we live. The great outdoors is also a way for us to take a deep breathe of the clean fresh air, without all the smog of the city life in our everyday lives,

We throughout Mankind are explorers and exploring is what we have done through many years from the start of our existence, without the exploring than our lives become dull and ordinary, we don’t learn and understand new things, so we can become better and stronger along our paths of our journey through life. We don’t have to go hike up any big mountains, just a simple nature trek along some little trail that we would never of even known it was there, unless we go explore it. When we trek through the Wilderness not only does it relax and let us breathe in clean fresh air, it also gets us in touch with our other senses that we forget we have, living within our comfort zones of our everyday living. Some may not like the idea of doing something new and different but this is how we grow in our lives, this is how we better understand everything around us and this is how we learn of everything around us.

A trail like this one in the picture you can see has a dense amount of plant life, some of these plants we never see in our everyday lives, which makes it fun to learn of them so we can have fun along this trail, this trail will also hold something different at every turn along our way through it, just as our path we take through this journey of life. While we walk along this trail the other sense we take for granted, is our keen sense of hearing, as the quietness of the trail, has us hear everything that is around us, like the beautiful sound of the Birds chirping and singing through their lives, as they to walk or fly their paths along their journey through life. There are many paths through the journey of life and for us the fun part is exploring them, so we can learn to be better and stronger, while we step outside our comfort zones, to truly be who we really are and that is an explorer, like the many before us throughout mankind.

” To step outside our comfort zone may be hard for some to do, but when we do it we find that there is a lot more beauty around us, than we thought there ever was”

” In the beginning of Mankind we were all explorers, we still are just that we have gotten away from it and stopped  learning of whats around us, so we can truly be who we are”

” Comfort zones keep us from any harm that may come to us, but we do need to step outside them to be better and stronger as we walk our paths of this journey through life and truly be who we are”

A Society in the haze that can’t see clearly along their path

           Yet another tragic shooting happening on our watch. Prayers to all the victims and their families of this tragic event.

Our Politicians every time this kind of tragic event happens, wants to further their case for stronger gun control? “It is not the guns that shoot and kill other people, it is people that shoot and kill other people”. When ever our elected Officials need to cut somewhere to balance their budgets, it is always Mental Health that gets the cuts and with such a depleted budget, how is it possible for all the Deranged Individuals to get the proper treatment?

We all suffer some life events, with some being more deeper than others, we try to move forward within our lives and not show a weakness to others around us, cause in this Society if you show that you are weak, you get stomped on like a herd of Buffalo moving along the meadow. Then with Mental Health not getting the proper budget they need, now it is up to the Individual to pay big money to get the proper help, so this leaves people to keep stewing within their own problems with no where to turn. When we try to suppress these life events deep within us to keep the harm from ourselves, only makes our troubles come out in other ways and most of the time, in ways that are not truly who we are. When we suppress our troubles of today, they then become bigger tomorrow and we lose a big part of who we are, not to mention losing our true empathy and remorse of ourselves and each other.

With all these tragic shootings happening on our watch, should be a wake up call to each of us to change our ways before it becomes too late. This is an election year for the President of the United States, with the current President calling for more gun control every time a tragic event like that of Oregon happens, you think we need someone that thinks much differently than what we currently have? We need to really research each candidate before we go behind the closed curtain of the voting booth, we need a President that has all our best interests and the interests of America deep within their heart, as well someone that will protect us from other tragic events that may come from abroad. We also need to get away from the names like the Clinton’s and the Busch’s, so we can get real change and change we all need to be better and stronger moving forward, along our paths of our journey through life.

Life events happen to all of us who walk a path through this journey of life, it is how we deal with these events that determine who we are and most of the time it is not truly who we really are. Mental Health doesn’t mean we are all crazy or sick, it truly means that we just need help to better understand what has happened to us, so we can fix ourselves and be better and stronger for whatever that may cross our paths in the future. The proper help don’t mean that you are weak, just that you want to be stronger than you are at time of need, There are a lot of things that will happen to us we don’t understand, we need to understand that it is not a sign of weakness to reach out for help, just shows that we are stronger than we actually think we are. We in this Society don’t have to be trapped within the haze of the events that happen to us, we just have to be strong enough to reach out for that helping hand when needed, so we all can walk our paths of our journey through life stronger and better, than all Societies of the past throughout Mankind.

” Tragedies happen for a reason, we just have to see the proper reason to fix all that is wrong correctly”

” Reaching out for the helping hand is not a sign of weakness, it shows we are stronger than we give ourselves credit for”

” It is not the gun that shoots and kills other people, it is people that shoot and kill other people”

The true reflection of life throughout this Journey

          That thing we look into in the morning as we get ready to start our days, that thing called a mirror which reflects our image back at us, so we can fix ourselves up for the coming day. The mirror was made with Human hands, as the reflection in this little pond, is totally natural and comes from Mother Nature herself. This kind of reflection in the pond is a beautiful thing to see, as you can see all that surrounds the pond within the pond, like your seeing double of everything you see and get an extra view of what you are looking at.

The pond is so smooth that it reflects everything around it and makes it seem like it isn’t really a pond, look straight across and see the Birch tree, then look down in the pond and see the Birch tree again, only the one in the water is the cloned double of the one on land, this makes for a great picture except maybe some fall colors, would truly make this mirrored image really stand out.

No matter where you turn there will be a mirrored image of something for you to see, whether the mirror is handmade or not? You walk by a vehicle with chrome bumpers and see yourself walking by as well, windows in our homes when the day sky turns to night, now you can see yourself like you are peeking into the window, you turn off the TV and you can see yourself in front of the Television, There is so much around us that form this reflection of what we see, that a lot of times we tune out the reflection, just to continue to move forward along our paths of our journey through life.

This Birch tree seems like it is all alone with all the green plant life around it, maybe this is why the reflection of itself is within the water? The mirrored image of life truly brings out the beauty, of everything that we see. The mirror we look into to start our day, brings out our inner beauty so we can also look as good as the Birch tree in this picture.

They say beauty is in the eye of the be-holder? But true beauty is the reflection that the be-holder will always see. We will never see a reflection of any kind, let alone the not seeing the true beauty that is around us, without first looking deeply into what we see, When we are honest with ourselves, look deeply into what we see, we will see all the reflections of every image and the true beauty within it, everyday as we walk our paths along this journey of life.

” A reflection is an image that will have us seeing double, til we look deeply into what we see”

” mirror mirror on the wall…….is that my reflection or is this my true beauty that you bring forth for me to see”

” A mirror may be man made, but the reflection coming out of it is the natural beauty, of what ever it is reflecting”

The different formations and never ending looks of the sky,,,,

           The sky above us has a huge variety of formations and different looks to it everyday, one day it may be a clear blue sky and the next it will have a grayish and not so clear look, one day the sky may be calm, then the next day it is full of fury and danger?  Most of the time we take the different looks of the sky for granted, much like we take things around us for granted as well, as we walk our paths of our journey through life.

The sky is one of those things we don’t pay that much attention to and it is above us every waking moment of our lives, just like the arrow in the word Fed-ex (which is a package delivery company), we don’t see the arrow as we are too busy to pay attention in our busy lives, the next time you see this truck in your neighborhood, look closely as to locate the arrow within this word. There is a lot that we don’t notice cause we are too busy in this fast paced Society and unless we take the time to notice what is around us, then life along our paths of our journey of life, will simply fly by with each of us wondering where did my life go?

The Pope came here to America not just because God sent him here, he came here to show us that there is hope for each and every one of us here within God’s creation, for each of us to have this hope, we first have to take the time to notice all the true beauty that is around us. Instead of each one of us walking our paths and not caring for whatever that is in our way. Take the time to care for and show our true empathy for everything along our paths, a lot of the Pope’s message of hope, comes from each one of us, showing our true empathy that is a deep feeling withing all of us and sharing this feeling of empathy with each other. True Empathy is something we lack in this Society and it shows in just how we treat each other, We would rather step all over each other just to put ourselves above each other. When God created this planet and all of Mankind, he did so with a vision of hope, love and caring for each other, he did not create all this for us to attack, ridicule or stomp on each other. Now that the Pope went back home to the Vatican, let’s not forget the true message of hope given to us from the Pope himself, let’s move forward with our true empathy of each other as strong as it ever was, so we can show the Pope and God, that the visit of the Pope wasn’t a temporary thing and that we all can have hope, as we walk our paths along our journey of life.

The different formations of the sky each and every day, is simply another way that God looks down on us and sends us messages for us to see, so we can change for the better and see all the true beauty that is around us. Yes when the sky is in full fury, this is God sending us a message that he is not happy with how we are walking our paths throughout this journey of life, just remember when Noah built the Ark and took all the animals two by two, so they wouldn’t drown from the flooded waters, this was God’s way of cleansing the Earth of all the crap, so we could start over, show hope that we all can show our empathy of each other and we all can be better moving forward. When we show our true empathy that is within us towards each other, then all the less fortunate will be better along their paths as well, the ones that struggle to put a meal on the table, will find that meal and a table to eat it on, those who don’t have a roof over their heads, will find that shelter, so they to can have safety like the rest of us do. The Pope’s message of hope wasn’t just for a few, it was meant for each one of us, as we are all equal in the eyes of God and he does not discriminate, To truly have this hope all we have to do is, take the time to notice all the true beauty that is around us and as we walk our paths of our journey through life, show our true empathy of each other, which will bring out our true love and caring of each other, without all the hate and stomping on of each other.

” Pope Francis is a true Saint and like God, he does not discriminate as he blesses us all with the, Father, the son and the Holy Spirit”

” The different formations of the sky is right above us all, we just have to take the time to notice the true beauty in which it brings”

” just as the blue sky brings calm and beauty, the grayish sky brings fury and a rough time”


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